SPEAKING OUR TRUTHS: A Three-Part Conversation Series about Black Masculinities


JANUARY |  Modern Love: Social Media and Romantic Relationships


Date: Friday, January 31, 2020
Time: 6pm – 9pm
Venue: Hair Play Salon. 2444 Dufferin St, Toronto, ON M6E 3T1

FEBRUARY |  Re-imagining Black Masculinities: Health and Wellness Among Black Men**


**Please note this event is aimed to be a solely Black Men’s space. Black Men are HIGHLY encouraged to attend.

Date: Saturday, February 22, 2020
Time: 3pm – 6pm
Venue: Ujima House – Young and Potential Fathers. 1901 Weston Rd Unit 18, Toronto, ON M9N 3P5

MARCH |  Being Your Best SELF: What Would It Take?


Date: Friday, March 27, 2020
Time: 6pm – 9pm
Venue: TAIBU Community Health Centre. 27 Tapscott Rd #1, Scarborough, ON M1B 4Y7

NOTE TO ATTENDEES:


Social justice and equity are principles that guide weSpeak Black Daddies Club (BDC) activities. weSpeak and BDC strive to offer anti-oppressive workshops and to create a safe space that is welcoming, empowering, and open to all and free from any form of discrimination and harassement.

**Light Refreshments Provided**

These discussion are free, please RSVP here 

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(Gender Pronoun: He/ Him)

Brandon Hay, MES

This Calendar Year of 2020 for Black Fathers

This Calendar year of 2020, will make the 13th anniversary of Black Daddies Club (BDC), and I had to ask myself do I have the capacity to steer the direction and grow the organization of how we should grow moving forward. Over the past 13 years, I have dealt with burnout, depression and isolation more times than I can account for, navigating personal issues such as navigating the separation of my marriage and learning how to co-parent from outside of the home, has been a really challenging, guilt-ridden and isolating process for me, many times not feeling like a “good” Black father myself (whatever this means).

During the years of 2017- 2019 I decided that I needed to limit the number of events Black Daddies Club took on and really focus on working on myself, really try to figure out how to heal myself and learn how to co-parent after a separation. During this process of my separation from my marriage, I started to seek out a Black Therapists and ideally wanted it to be a Black man, as I wanted to bring my whole self into the conversation without feeling like I was being Judged. I couldn’t find a Black male therapist, but I found a great Black therapist who was a woman and she helped me move some emotional blockages by supporting me to discover some unhealthy patterns that I had grown to normalize.

However, I still felt distant in my conversations with my therapist and what I desired was a space where I could see myself in the other person I was engaging with, and what I wanted this to look like was connectivity by the other person sharing of their own experiences, and for our experiences to intersect; what I was seeking was not feeling like I was alone going through this process of my marriage separation and figuring who I was as a Black father and Black man. I had experienced this type of confluence in barbershops discussions as well as dialogical spaces that were co-created through the Black Daddies Club, and I feel it is important moving forward to be intentional to put work into co-creating more spaces for Black conversations in Toronto.


In 2019, I decided that I wanted to take a more pro-active step towards healing myself, so I went back to school to become a therapist at the Gestalt Institute of Toronto for their five-year program. With that, the understanding that the first two years of the program was to focus on working on myself healing and then the remaining three years was focusing on how I could support our people in my community on their own path towards healing. Before I can do any kind of therapeutic work, I must heal myself first and have a better understanding of myself and how to support myself in the process.

This brings me to the direction that I want to take Black Daddies Club over the next few years which will be to focus on co-creating healing spaces for Black fathers, Black families and the various Black communities in the Greater Toronto Area. I wanted the work that Black Daddies Club would undertake in the year 2020 and 2021 to be grounded in research that we have done through the Gathering Our Voices Research Project in 2013. The research that was a collaboration between York University, University of Toronto, The City of Toronto and The Black Daddies Club, captured the voices of Black fathers in living in Toronto and produced several themes that BDC will be delving into deeper over 2020 and 2021. I wanted to create a framework of Collaboration, Co-Creation and Innovation to determine the future work that BDC will undertake moving forward after 2021. This process will be steeped in collaboration, how I define collaboration in this sense is that it should be win/win, potentially long term, and cross-sectorial.

Collaborating from the roots versus collaborating from the branch, which speaks to working together from early in the process versus collaborating later on in the process. Our goal for this work is to be mechanisms for transformation, with that being said, our hope is to change or strengthen existing policy, decrease isolation in our communities and moving towards a more collaborative approach to limit the work done in silos that I have been seeing popular due to non-profit industrial complex.

Our first collaborative project of 2020 will between Ryerson University research project WeSpeak and The Black Daddies Club. The WeSpeak project is research looking at Black men in Canada living with HIV and hired Black Daddies Club as consultants to produce three community based dialogues in the months of January to March 2020, which will take a look at issues around dating and healing from Black men perspective.

We hope you can join Black Daddies Club in 2020 as we plan on continuing to co-create relevant initiatives with the support of community members as yourselves.


Regards
Brandon Hay, MES (Bus.)
Founder of The Black Daddies Club

How to discuss racism and diversity with kids | Living In Colour

Back to School tips: Talking to your Black child(ren) about race

The month of September can bring about a lot of stress and anxiety for both parents and their children,  however this feeling of anxiety can also be increased if you are a Black parent, who also have to deal with systemic anti-Black racism in the school system. Here are some tips on talking to your Black children and children of colour about race.

At what age should you begin talking to children about diversity and racism?

Living In Colour host Farah Nasser chats with Brandon Hay, founder of the Black Daddies Club, and Yashy Murphy, writer for Babyandlife.com, about the importance of having race discussions with kids.

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Fathers Day events recommended by Black Daddies Club

Black Daddies Club wanted to highlight a few upcoming Fathers-Day events that they whole family can attend, so if you are thinking of a gift to give that special Black father in your life, here are few gift ideas, for events taking place in the Greater Toronto Area for Fathers-Day 2019.

Black Daddies Club recommended Fathers-Day 2019 events in the Greater Toronto Area 

Monday Nights 

(The Fathers-Day Sunday Matinee of the play Monday Nights is brought to you by Luminato and The Black Daddies Club)

Is an interactive basketball and theatre experience like nothing you have ever experience before where basketball meets art and how the game can help us understand ourselves and connect to our community- plus, the audience gets to play the game as part of the show! We ask if you attend, please wear comfortable sneakers.

The $5 promo code is only valid on tickets purchased in advance – either by phone or online (but not as a walk-up on the day of the performance) – for the Sunday June 16th performance, which starts at 1pm.

The promo code is BDCMN5

The venue is at 291 Lakeshore Blvd East, steps away from the intersection of Lakeshore Blvd East and Parliament Street.

This is a special venue, being designed specifically for this performance and is essentially in a cool warehouse, with bleachers for seats and the stage is a basketball court!

It’s an interactive performance so people should wear their sneakers. They don’t have to “get in the game” but it’s more fun if they do!

And in terms of age, it’s suitable for anyone old enough to play basketball, though some of the audio tracks contain coarse language. 

The Daddy Daughter Fathers Day Brunch

Soul Sessions Entertainment, Crossfield House Productions, and Up From The Roots have come together to create a memorable afternoon, celebrating the bond between fathers and their daughters.

Find out more and purchase tickets at http://dwaynemorgan.ca/events/my-events/

AFRO VEGAN FEST 

Is Toronto’s NEWEST vegan celebration! Indulge in mouth-watering African and Caribbean cuisine with LIVE MUSIC this Father’s Day! Children 12 & under receive FREE ADMISSION.

Find out more and purchase tickets at https://avftoronto.ca

D.A.D. Festival 

Young Potential Fathers present D.A.D. Festival, which is a free pre Fathers-Day event that includes, food, Dad Olympics, Family concert, games, giveaways and much more.

Find out more at http://youngpfathers.org

Happy Fathers Day from Black Daddies Club

Greetings All,

As Fathers- Day approaches, it is fitting that we at Black Daddies Club hail up the Black fathers who are out there making a constant change in the stereotypes that Black fathers are not engaged parents. To all the Black Fathers out there that are employed or unemployed, incarcerated or free out here in society, or those that might be dealing Children Aid Society or Family courts trying to be there for your children, we see you and your children see you as well as appreciate your efforts. Please remember that each of you matter and you are not alone. 

To the Black fathers who are either straight, disabled, LGBTQ2S+, mixed race, etc. making a difference in your children lives, thank you for your presence.

To the Black mothers and guardians that maybe holding down single parent households, thank you for doing the best that you can, your children appreciate your efforts even if they do not yet have the language or quite know the enormity of your efforts as yet, we appreciate and love each of you.

Have a dope and special Fathers Day

TDSB Black students lead panel discussions, and CTV -The Social, features the Journey to Black Liberation Symposium

The Journey to Black Liberation Symposiumand Black Liberation Ball, is taking place this weekend February 1stand 2nd, 2019. A part of Kuumba Black History Month festival at Harbourfront Centre. Register today and get your free tickets.

Online registration for the symposium will be closed on February 1st, and then it will only be registration available on the day of the event at the venue.

Toronto District School Board (TDSB) partners with the Journey to Black Liberation Symposium to bring youth led plenaries on Toxic Masculinity and Homophobia; and Police brutality. Creating an intergenerational learning space is important to the organizers of the Journey to Black Liberation Symposium and we are excited to partner with some awesome young people from Downsview High School (TDSB), who have co-created the Black Brilliance conference, which have been successful for the past three years. These youth led panel discussions  will take place on Friday February 1st, 2019 from 10m to 2pm, this will be youth led and youth only space, teachers and guardians are welcomed. Lunch will be provided, to register your students, email cguespin@harbourfrontcentre.com

OCAD University partners with the Journey to Black Liberation Symposium, Black students from OCAD, will be showing some dope artwork that speaks to the idea of Black Liberation during the symposium on February 1stand 2nd, 2019, these artwork will only be shown over this weekend, please come out and check out these great art pieces.

HuffPost Canada features Black Daddies Club and WeSpeak barbershop session on January 25th, 2019 at Hairplay Salon, the topic was on Honesty in Black relationships in Toronto, and the discussion was a primer for the bigger conversation taking place at Harbourfront Centre on February 2nd, 2019.

CTV The Social will feature two of the three co-curators of the Journey to Black Liberation Symposium and Black Liberation Ball. Twysted Mugler and Brandon Hay, will be featured on the live TV show on Friday February 1st, 2019 at 1pm, Get your PVR ready.

Announcing the headliner guest for Journey to Black Liberation Symposium and Black Liberation Ball Feb 1st and 2nd, 2019 at Harbourfront Centre

“There can not be true Black liberation, until we are all liberated and free.”

The Symposium is a collaboration between the Black straight and Black LGBT2QS+ communities, with one of the purpose of the event which is to have cross-borders dialogue around issues that affect Black communities from around the world, the other goal is to speak to the fact that there are multiple entry points into Blackness and the fact that the Journey for Black Liberation can not only be for heteronormative folks. 

See the complete line up for the plenaries at this year’s Journey to Black Liberation Symposium, we are 90% sold out for some of our plenaries, so register for free today and also buy your tickets for the Black Liberation Ball, which is guaranteed to be sold out this year for the 2ndyear in a row.

As Black Daddies Club goes into our 11th year of doing grassroots community based education in the city of Toronto we are excited to co-present, The 2nd annual Journey to Black Liberation Symposium and the Black Liberation Ball which were born through the 2017 Black Love Matters Un-Conference course at York University co-taught and co-created by Nigel Barriffe and Brandon Hay (founder of Black Daddies Club).

All the plenaries are free, we want to ensure that this symposium is as accessible as possible for community members to attend.

We are excited to announce that our headliner this 2019 is Dominque Jackson, who will be doing an intimate dialogue entitled “I AM WOMAN”, best known for her leading role of Elektra Abundance of the FX Television series Pose, will be discussing her life as a trans Black woman and the challenges and achievements that have made her the women she is today. 

We are excited to announce we have a barbershop discussion event leading up to symposium entitled “Black People Being Honest: Dating While Black in Toronto in 2019”, this discussion will be on Friday January 25th, 2019from 7pm to 9pm at Hairplay barbershop 2444 Dufferin Street, the event is free and no registration is needed.

Media will be at this event and we will be filming this discussion. Please see flyers attached for more details

The Journey to Black Liberation Symposium

Black liberation to me means that we will all be treated as equals, and not having racism anymore.”– Jaaziah, 13

The Journey to Black Liberation Symposium returns to Harbourfront Centre for its second edition! This year, the focus is to have a series of conversation between various Black communities around the world engaging in discussions that are affecting us on a micro as well as macro level. The goal is not to just bear witness to the oppression and injustice, but it is to create a series cross borders network of Black activists, academics and other stakeholders looking at sharing ideas, strategizing, educating each other and community building in efforts achieve Black liberation globally. The goal is touch lives, enrich lives and also change lives in the process.

For the 2019 edition, the conversations will be around the themes of Love, Honesty and Healing in Black Communities in the 21st century.

Co-curated by Brandon Hay (Black Daddies Club/Toronto), Twysted Miyake Mugler (Toronto Kiki Ballroom Alliance/Toronto), Michael Roberson Maasai Maison-Margiela (NYC).

Find out more and register here